Learning lessons as the time passes

When creating this blog I thought that I would be a fantastic blogger and continuously be a day to day writer just popping stories out left and right.  Boy, was I wrong! Today I realized that there has not been a blog posted on our site in over a month. I can’t honestly give a definite reason as to why not though. Have I been hiding under a rock for a month? No. Have I experienced drama lately? Yes Have important things happened in the last month? Yes Have I had 30 minutes to spare? Yes. The only real reason I can give for not writing is the fact that …Life goes on and people get caught up in their lives being busy. It seems the older I get that it feels that time just goes by so quickly.  There are so many lessons you will learn in life and that I continue to learn daily and this is the topic that I want to discuss today.

I’ve recently been going crazy trying to a plan a wedding and one of the lessons that I have learned is… You can’t please everyone. I have spent months trying to plan to find and fit everyone’s needs and wants. I was going around in circles wanting to fit in everyone’s vision of perfect to please everyone whom will be in attendance. Then all of the sudden I remembered its MY wedding. At the end of the day the only person that needs to be please with the event is myself and my groom right ?!? Bill Cosby once said ” I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone”.  I know that it is human nature to want to feel that sense of belonging, liked, respected, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of your own happiness. People can’t give you that: you have to give yourself that. At the end of the day, you have to answer to yourself so speak up, demand the respect you deserve, and always stay true to your values.

Another thing is taking things for granted which is a hard lesson to learn. Life can change in an instant and you need to make sure that you appreciate what you have while you still have it.  Many people don’t appreciate things until there gone: these things include health, family, friends, jobs, and money. Many young people think that your parents will always be there for you,  but that’s not true. You can think that your friends will always be there for you, but they wont be. You won’t always have time time to get back in touch with someone, hang out with someone, or mend broken relationships. Nothing in life is guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including your loved ones. So if there are things in your life that you have left unsaid or grudges you are holding .. you need to ask if you’re willing to live with those things be unsettled. The chance to fix things or say something wont always be waiting for you. Ask yourself… if the petty stuff is worth it? This also can work in the favor of getting rid of the negative people in your life. Negative people are like leeches.. all they do is suck the happiness out of you. Getting rid of the dead weight in your life can make a difference that will astound you. If you are giving people 10x more than they are giving you then it is time to cut the cord. Try it, it has made me happier than I have ever been.

Lastly, you can’t always have what you want in life. Life is still out there happening while you’re busy making plans. Things don’t always work out accordingly even when you put in the hard work.. and there is nothing wrong with that.  Everyone has expectations and visions of what our “ideal” life will look like or our “dream life” will be. In reality that isn’t what we end up with regardless of the effort. Dreams fail, mind change, and wishes don’t come true or often we change our minds in mid-course of chasing something.  There are going to be challenges we will face, obstacles we will over come, and failures we will experience. Through all the road blocks and direction changes the most important thing we will discover will be the right direction.

In conclusion, my final thought is… As time goes on you’ll understand what lasts, lasts: what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things. And what time cant solve, you have to solve yourself. 

Only the strong survive